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Posted: Sun Jul 20th, 2008 06:32 pm |
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For the last couple of months I have been working my way down the emotional scale. Feeling better and better everyday. I went from being a depressed and bitter human being, to a happy loving one
The reason was my ex boyfriend leaving me while i was pregnant, got him self a new girlfriend, refused to speak with me and showed no interessed in our son. Anyway, I started working on myself and my emotions. In the beginning all I really wanted was the result of him returning to me, but you cant create in anothers experience right! So i decided to just do it for me. I was happy to discover that as I changed the way I looked at this situasion, my ex also started changing. He started talking to me again and he actually started to spend time with his son. Not much, but its a beginning. Anyway, today he came by to deliver our son after spending the day with him. And he brought with him his new girlfriend. This was the first time I met her and it just killed me..It was so difficult seeing them together and I never thought I would feel this way because of him. Now I have gone from Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness to grief and Powerlessness
Just needed to get it out. Any uplifting words anyone?
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Posted: Sun Jul 20th, 2008 06:37 pm |
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Alright, so maybe we can move up the scale just a little bit towards anger. What is it about this whole situation that's made you very ANGRY?
Feel free to list them here, or write them down or just say them aloud to yourself in private. But it's time to get ANGRY and think about REVENGE!
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bluetonic
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Posted: Sun Jul 20th, 2008 06:44 pm |
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| Well, It does make me angry that he has treated me so wrong and it makes me angry to think about how she is with him and I am not. And how happy they are together and how happy he has been this hole time while I`ve gone true the worst time of my life because of him. Just seeing them so inlove, smiling and holding hands made me sick!
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bluetonic
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Posted: Sun Jul 20th, 2008 06:45 pm |
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Actually that felt better
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Posted: Sun Jul 20th, 2008 07:41 pm |
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Hi Bluetonic 
Sending you a hug 
It's not weird that you felt grief when you saw your ex boyfriend together with his new girlfriend for the first time. Don't be too hard on yourself, just remember that you can get past these feelings. As you described, you came from being depressed and bitter to a happy person, so you already KNOW you can do it!
The advice Good Vibrations send you was great. Working your way up the scale on a particular subject helps a lot. And you can also focus on things that DO feel good, whatever they are!
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..it makes me angry to think about how she is with him and I am not. You probably aren't with him because you and he are on a different vibrational level right now. You attracted your ex in another time, where your vibration was much different than it is now. If you say you feel much happier now, can you imagine what kind of person you would attract now? (I'm not saying that you want to attract someone else into your life right now, I'm just saying that you CAN attract someone else who has more of the things you want right now)
Much love 
Tai
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Posted: Sun Jul 20th, 2008 07:43 pm |
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| yay! Now do you think some revenge thoughts might make you feel better? (let's just think about it, not actually do it, lol)
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bluetonic
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Posted: Sun Jul 20th, 2008 08:11 pm |
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hihi Well the best revenge (in my mind) would be if she just dumped him. Leaving him heartbroken. That is a very nice tought actually! Then I would like to see him make a big fool of him self..like if his friends would find out that all the things he has been saying about me where lies! Then he would feel awfull about himself
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Posted: Sun Jul 20th, 2008 08:29 pm |
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Yay! Here's to revenge... he can go suck an egg
And, of course, when his new girlfriend dumps his sorry butt and he comes crawling back to you, begging forgiveness, you can LAUGH IN HIS FACE and say YOU DON'T DESERVE ME. You never deserved me! THANK YOU for leaving me. You did me a HUGE favour! Stupid head! hehehee
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Posted: Mon Jul 21st, 2008 12:50 pm |
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Thats  what I had in mind To bad I can`t make that happen!
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Posted: Mon Jul 21st, 2008 12:58 pm |
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 Tai, for your kind words! I will attract my soulmate Just need to work my way down the emotional scale again. It would be so wonderful to feel inlove and to be loved
Hugs and love!
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Posted: Mon Jul 21st, 2008 02:49 pm |
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Years ago I walked in on my on again off again boyfriend having sex with another woman. It hurt me sooooo bad but now I know it helped me to see all the wonderful, available men out there. Today I really am glad it happened that way otherwise I probably would have stayed with him longer than I should have!
Bluetonic -
You have a beautiful son who loves you, needs you and choose you to be his mommy!!!
Your perfect partner is own his way to you.
You are a powerful creator!
Hugs to You!
Love,
Lisa
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Posted: Mon Jul 21st, 2008 06:43 pm |
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bluetonic wrote: It would be so wonderful to feel inl ove and to be loved
The love you are looking for is from yourself. If you love yourself like your IB does. 
You will attract only those that love you in the same way.
I AM
Always trusting
Terrie
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Posted: Mon Jul 21st, 2008 06:51 pm |
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Terrie wrote:
The love you are looking for is from yourself.If you love yourself like your IB does.
You will attract only those that love you in the same way.
No truer words could be spoken on this subject.
Love,
Christine
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Posted: Mon Jul 21st, 2008 07:00 pm |
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Geez---what a pair this guy and the new GF are! If HE doesn't have the insight to see how uncomfortable it might be for him to bring her along, you'd at least think SHE would realize it, and choose not to come.
Do you realize how fortunate you are not to have a person like that in the role of father to your child???? The patience and insight that it takes to parent in a loving way do not seem to be the attributes that this person has.
Wouldn't surprise me if he uses HER and leaves her, also.
You have a child to make a life with now, and this person is more childish than any child.
Do your best to work up the scale, at least to "disappointement," and as soon as you can to the "optimism"---that you will regain your enthusiasm for what lies ahead very soon. It is not good for the well-being of your child for you to wallow in this, or spend time on the phone or with girl friends talking about it....the child picks up the vibration of that.
Keep focused on what is already in your Vibrational Escrow as a result of this----a stable and loving family --- comprised of "whoever" for your child, and a happy heart for you....
Pat
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Posted: Mon Jul 21st, 2008 07:07 pm |
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patricia b wrote: Geez---what a pair this guy and the new GF are! If HE doesn't have the insight to see how uncomfortable it might be for him to bring her along, you'd at least think SHE would realize it, and choose not to come.
Do you realize how fortunate you are not to have a person like that in the role of father to your child???? The patience and insight that it takes to parent in a loving way do not seem to be the attributes that this person has.
Wouldn't surprise me if he uses HER and leaves her, also.
You have a child to make a life with now, and this person is more childish than any child.
Do your best to work up the scale, at least to "disappointement," and as soon as you can to the "optimism"---that you will regain your enthusiasm for what lies ahead very soon. It is not good for the well-being of your child for you to wallow in this, or spend time on the phone or with girl friends talking about it....the child picks up the vibration of that.
Keep focused on what is already in your Vibrational Escrow as a result of this----a stable and loving family --- comprised of "whoever" for your child, and a happy heart for you....
Pat
Pat has given you such EXCELLANT advise. Don't give anymore " energy" into "what has happened" Move forward loving yourself and your child. Love and adore yourself the way you want to be loved, love your son he way you want to be loved. Stop looking out side yourself. It will then fall in to place. IT IS LAW.
I AM
Terrie
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