"Stop being motivated by their need, and start being called by their desire - THAT'S a relationship!"

My comments on this: I really loved that quote.  They were speaking to the way we sometimes think that the more we serve another person, the more loving we are being.  We've been taught that knowing what the other NEEDS makes us a good partner, and giving them what they need is a good relationship, when actually, a relationship is good when both partners are "called by desire" - their own, and the other person's.  Looking at your beloved and feeling joy in their vision for themselves and holding that vision yourself for them - THAT is giving something loving.  Subjugating one's self to the "needs" of another is not love.  Abraham has spoken in the past of compromise not really being such a good idea.  In compromise each person gives something up.  In joyous co-creation, each person gets MORE!
Would it have been more "loving" if Jesus had given the sick people who came to him medicine, sympathy, and assistance? NO, he was pure love because he held the vision of their wholeness.  He responded to their DESIRE, not to their NEED! 

I was on the hotseat and asked Abraham "What is co-creation"?  I also asked about HOW Jesus did that thing that he did.  I asked if Jesus shined the same countenance of pure acceptance on himself the way he did on others.  Okay, here's the humorous bit...
I said (yes, right on the hotseat...what was I thinking? ) that David is a lot like Jesus in that he has the ability to see the PURE GOOD in others.  He is the most "liquid love" person you could ever meet.  And yet... I wish he could always shine that same light of love and acceptance on HIMSELF.  So I asked... was Jesus every self-critical?  Abraham answered that Jesus had to learn the skill of healing in the way he did.  He practiced and honed it.  And they said that of course it's easier to find fault with ourselves than with others... I'm getting to the funny part...
So after the workshop that day our friends starting bowing and scraping at David and asking to "touch his garments".  I had created a monster! Even perfect strangers started coming up to me and saying "is that the perfect guy?"  Oh boy... David's head was getting bigger by the moment - !!

But getting back to the hotseat..
As I sat there, I looked down at the list of questions I'd prepared.. and after the one about co-creation and the one about whether Jesus was ever self critical the rest seemed silly... and I told Abraham that the longer I study their teachings the more "elementary" my questions feel.. rather than the more complex.. I don't remember their answer - it was one of those "I'm on the hotseat and they are talking to me but I'm spaced completely out" moments... Anyone else remember? Kendall? Kevin? I've already asked David but Mr. "I'm as good as God" was just as spaced out as I was!
Well, we'll get the CD's...

More soon!

Jody

Last edited on Tue Jun 17th, 2008 08:57 am by Jody1

Jody, thanks. That quote fits PERFECTLY with what I understand now in relationships.

Jody and David, I hold an image of you BOTH appreciating the beauty of who each of you truly is. (You are a vibrational match in this regard. )

It has always been so much easier for me also to see the beauty and wonder in others. Ah, but the goal is to see it also in me. Can you imagine the MAGIC when you get there?

Love,
Christine

Last edited on Thu Jun 12th, 2008 05:29 pm by dance of joy