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thwinters
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 Posted: Wed May 5th, 2010 09:29 pm
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I've been feeling very sad lately.  And I want to cry all the time.  And I find myself resisting the crying, because I think 'wait, I want to feel good, and not sad.'  But then when I do cry, I feel better.  So my question is, is crying part of the process of releasing resistance?

Thanks for your help.

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 Posted: Wed May 5th, 2010 09:35 pm
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YES! Crying is releasing resistance.. You knew that already cause you felt the relief.

There's an Abe video about laughing and crying both being a release of resistance.

Feels good doesnt it?

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 Posted: Wed May 5th, 2010 09:36 pm
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Oh yes, definitely. Don't beat yourself up for feeling sad-- believe me, I've been there! Feeling bad, wanting to cry, and then saying, "But, but, but I need to feel better!" 

The key to feeling better and getting back on top is to let the emotions ride through you, experience them fully, and don't try to rush it.  The more you allow your emotions, the better it gets.  And you don't have to be feeling great for your desires to start coming to you-- just releasing resistance is enough, and crying does that :)

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 Posted: Wed May 5th, 2010 10:07 pm
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Thanks to both of you, Dutchess, and mikeh, for you replies.  Dutchess, you are right, I did already know that it was releasing resistance because I did feel better.  And mikeh, thanks for what you said about just releasing resistance brings the desire, I don't have to be feeling great.  That really helped.

I think I really just wanted some comfort, and both of you have given me that.  Thank you so much!

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 Posted: Wed May 5th, 2010 11:21 pm
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When all else fails for me, I find crying to be one of the best and most natural ways for me to release resistance.

Our culture tells us crying is wrong. Most of us were told to stop crying and get over it by people who didn't know how to deal with emotional pain, and so, we learned to repress our feelings.

I really believe that crying is so effective and as I said before, so natural. I'm a 40 yr old man who has no problem shedding tears and encourage my loved ones when they're  hurting to do so as well.

A good cry feels so good!

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 Posted: Wed May 5th, 2010 11:52 pm
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Not only is crying releasings resistance ~ you know the 'happy' cry's that feel good like listening to awesome music or other times you feel joy and cry?

Abe says those type crys are 'joy leaking out'.  That joy was so great and we were  not quite there to feel it  directly, so crying raises us up the scale.  Then joy is right there.  

Goosebumps kinda same thing as the happy cry. 

 

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 Posted: Thu May 6th, 2010 03:46 am
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Thwinters,

I find that when I am really resisting, the best thing for me to do is cry....It is so cleansing and releasing!  That`s when I let go of the struggle, when I SURRENDER everything....I`m in my body and I just let my emotions come up to the surface.....when I try to "fight" crying, the worse I feel......so I finally give in to it...I may weep, cry, sob, wail.... it doesn`t matter......Afterwards, I tend to feel a whole lot better and my perspective of my so called `problem` seems to have changed on its own..

I`ve learned not to deny my feelings...I am where I am and that`s okay...and before I know it, I`m on the way UP! ( or DOWN, if we`re talking about the stream in the river. LOL )

Much love to you

xoaniheart

 

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 Posted: Thu May 6th, 2010 10:30 am
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I cry about everything - EVERYTHING! People make fun of me, saying I've "built my home too close to the water". I get lots of strange looks when people think my tears are "inappropriate". So be it.

Tears are to my mind the expression of ANY emotion too big for my tiny little physical body to contain. I cry great racking sobs of grief. Quiet tears of sadness silently slip down my cheeks. Burning tears of anger and frustration wash away the tension of those emotions. At my sister's wedding, tears of joy and hope mingled on my eyelashes with those of sadness over the closing of an era (and, oops, there they are again!). I cried at Obama's inauguration. I cry after earth-shaking sex. I cry at the pain of others' cruelty or suffering, and I cry when I am witness to their joy. I cry when I see my brother after years and years, and I cry when we must again part. I cry when I miss my departed father, and I cry in the joyous knowledge that he is still with me and always will be. I cry at the miracle of a beautiful sunset. I laugh raucously until I cry, and then I laugh some more. And the best tears of all are those that flow when I feel overwhelming LOVE.

Yes, I have built my home too close to the water for others' comfort. But I'm not afraid of getting my feet (or my face) wet when the life-giving flood of my ocean of emotion comes.

Welcome your tears. They ARE release.

::hugging
Christine

PS: My IB just kicked me in the butt, saying "Hey, aren't you forgetting something here? Taking something for granted? What's up?" And so now here I am, crying big, wet, wonderful tears of appreciation and love for my brilliant and beautiful MOTHER, who has given me so much.

Last edited on Thu May 6th, 2010 12:31 pm by CreatorChristine

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 Posted: Thu May 6th, 2010 11:05 am
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Ooooh, Christine, Awesome. :beautiful: ::TU :kiss:

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 Posted: Thu May 6th, 2010 04:19 pm
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YES! To a good cry! ....I always knew it felt like a release, and when I heard Abe say ALL tears are release, I thought... soo right!  Christine .. you said it so well, like emotions too big for body to contain.
Personally for me I think release brought through tears the best 'process' of them all. Sometimes I feel like ... if I can just evoke a single tear even, it's like a shortcut to writing a stack of focus wheels, without all the thinking and words ... just pure feeling/emotion ... release/relief/letting go.

I also highly recomend sleeping it off when it feels like the desired thing to do, or a combination of the two. Heard a really reassuring Abraham segment on utube telling a guy about sleep being IB's natural instinct for relief/wanting to feel better. Abe was so kind and comforting in their explanation to him of how he wasn't wrong or being overly negative or depressed (like he was being judged by others) for liking to sleep a lot, just personally a helpful thing for him at that time.

Back to crying ... I am always touched, impressed and strangely reassured when a man (especially one who has normally a mucho exterior) allows himself to cry in my presence .. even if it's only ever been once .. it's something I remember fondly about him .. like he allowed his heart to be soft and open minus the protectve walls.

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 Posted: Thu May 6th, 2010 05:14 pm
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So my question is, is crying part of the process of releasing resistance?

For the sake of completeness, I heard Abraham say that it can be both - a significant change in vibration upwards as well as downwards, with your body not quite up to speed with the change in vibration.

And that has been my experience as well - for example, if you´re in a happy place, and you hear about the sudden death of a friend or relative, and you burst into tears, that is of course not a sign of releasing resistance, but activating it in a strong way. But I´ve found these occurences to be rather rare - I guess most people are used to quite a bit of contrast, and things that are perceived as bad are usually long in coming as far as the manifestation is concerned. 

But you can always tell by the way you feel, and in this case, it´s obvious, you said it yourself.

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 Posted: Fri May 7th, 2010 04:54 pm
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Wow !! Just this morning I was feeling pretty crappy so I listened to one of my Abe cds and cried through most of it. I felt great relief afterwards though and feel better about dealing with the rest of my day. :allgood


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