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waxwing
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 Posted: Wed Sep 16th, 2009 01:45 pm
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How to find downstream thoughts about this powerful fear of rejection by other people, wheter it's related to business or personal relationships. This fear hits me often, and everytime my mind goes to work to find negative evidence from the past that supports this fear. It's like I'm torturing myself on purpose. And it seems to be so deep-rooted and destructive. Everytime I experience these emotions, I get so scared that they mess up all my positive achievements and I have to start from zero again. I know they are bogus thoughts but still they affect me.

Thanks for reading this.

 

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 Posted: Wed Sep 16th, 2009 01:54 pm
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The key to this is to no longer reject yourself. When we fear rejection and judgement, it is because we are judging ourselves internally. Take steps to finding what is beautiful in you. Find one thing you like about you and milk that. Maybe it is your smile, or the way you sing, or that you write well or do something well at your job. Every day, remind yourself of that one (or several) aspects of you that you like. As Abraham says, you cannot feel good and bad at the same time.

Just as Abraham suggests doing a book of positive aspects about others, you can do one on yourself. Write in it daily.

As you radiate approval of yourself and love for yourself, you will attract only that from others also.

Love,
Christine

Last edited on Wed Sep 16th, 2009 02:02 pm by dance of joy

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 Posted: Wed Sep 16th, 2009 02:11 pm
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This takes alot of practice. The thoughts that you are choosing are, by Law of Attraction, attracting similar thoughts. Perhaps you are not fully paying attention, and by the time that LOA has assembled many, many matching thoughts, you suddenly feel strong negative emotion. This is exactly how things are supposed to work. Everything is working perfectly, you are just not yet "working it". It really takes some conscious effort in the choosing of your thoughts.

First, don't worry or think that you need to monitor every thought that you have...but with that said, you should intend to identify the negative/counterproductive thoughts as early as possible, before they gain much momentum.

Second, its no big deal, because if you don't catch the early thoughts, you will attract more of them and eventually there will be enough of these destructive thoughts to sound the alarm...and that alarm is the negative emotions that you said you thought were messing up your positive achievements. This is not the case. The emotions are not messing up anything. They are indicators of thoughts that have already been in place, that may have been the "2 steps back" in the ole "1 step forward and 2 steps back" scenario. But the emotions are a good thing. They are a big alarm bell for you...so listen to them, but don't blame them.

Third, when you finally "get it" either by recognizing a negative thought or the indicator, make yourself stop immediately and feel what to do next. You should find a better feeling thought, or pivot. You really just have to stop the negative thought. Just stop it dead in its tracks. Alot can be achieved by this alone. Once you have stopped the thought with the intent to "work on it", you have recognized/admitted that it is not true and that you have to find what IS true. You have already taken alot of power away from it. Then, you have to work your way up the EGS with better and better thoughts.

When it feels too hard, just remember what is at stake and also remember that this is the way the Universe works whether you "work it" or not and also that this is the way it works for everyone. No one has a genie's lamp. We're all using the same emotional guidance system. We're all choosing our thoughts and our beliefs and making decisions on which thought will be perpetuated and which thought should be ended or improved. If other highly successful people out there are NOT having these bogus thoughts about fear of rejection...then WHY SHOULD YOU? We are no different, all of us, only our choice of thoughts differentiate us.



It sounds as if you are doing great. Have fun tweaking this and noticing the unfathomably grand results!

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 Posted: Wed Sep 16th, 2009 02:45 pm
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Well, I'm of the life experience/opinion that people will 'reject' us even when we're thinking positive thoughts.
Even as you practice more and more positive thoughts, others, who are not a match, will vibrationally move away in another direction.

Rejection is a feeling I've been 'chewing on' lately. I keep getting reasons to practice feeling good about myself no matter what anyone outside of me is doing, saying, or feeling.

It seems to come down to not giving a rip what anyone else thinks of you (as Abe says). There is incredible freedom in this.
So, if I'm feeling rejected, it must be because I still care how that person feels about me. And I must not be thinking as highly of myself as I could be. As I want to.

Your Inner Being adores you, Source is you and loves you. Let's remember who we are and not care what anyone else says. Your opinion of you is all that matters - forever and always. Might as well choose thoughts that bring relief, that feel good to you.

::heartsJoyful V

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 Posted: Wed Sep 16th, 2009 09:14 pm
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Joyful, you hit the nail on the head!!!

Well, I'm of the life experience/opinion that people will 'reject' us even when we're thinking positive thoughts.
Even as you practice more and more positive thoughts, others, who are not a match, will vibrationally move away in another direction.


So true and I learned this yesterday. I had an interview with an agent and she was really into me and friendly and I liked her. She told me to call her in the Fall if I wanted to work with her. So the other day,  I was feeling so calm and happy all day and great about where I am. I'm in a great play, have a callback for a film, and moving into a beautiful new apartment. Life is good and very vortexy. And so I called her, and we had a great little conversation, and she told me to email her my pic and resume and she said she would call me that night. So I didn't even question that she wouldn't be working with me. I assumed she'd be calling me to say she wants to work together. So imagine my surprise when I got her email saying that she looked at my stuff and doesn't want to work with me right now. I got upset, worked up the scale to revengeful fantasies and then "well screw her" stuff. And then I said "I don't get it. I'm so in the vortex these days, and I totally expected her to work with me. So how is this possible." My husband responded with: "Well the fact that you were in the vortex and had positive expectation is PROOF that it's not about your alignment in this case, it's about the fact that the universe doesn't consider this specific agent a cooperative component to your desire."

He is so right. And frankly, I've heard a lot of bad things about her, so it became obvious that my husband was speaking the truth.

So I was rejected, but for my own good.

 

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 Posted: Wed Sep 16th, 2009 09:34 pm
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Hello you nice cute little bird ;)

its because you dont watch your wonderful beautiful soul and the great expression of yourself here in your earthtime. You forgot and seperate. Did you forgot to laugh about yourself too? You are always save and loved.

It does not matter when or where, I believe it for you. So - if you cannot believe now, we all carry your boat downstream until you'll find: You did it by yourself and in your heart you know.

With Love

Mary::hugging

 

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 Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 02:55 am
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mysticalcreator wrote: My husband responded with: "Well the fact that you were in the vortex and had positive expectation is PROOF that it's not about your alignment in this case, it's about the fact that the universe doesn't consider this specific agent a cooperative component to your desire."

Hi MC ::wave Thx for sharing these wonderful words from your hubby - they really resonated with me - this is a keeper for me!

::thumb


~PGP

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 Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 04:05 am
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mysticalcreator wrote:  My husband responded with: "Well the fact that you were in the vortex and had positive expectation is PROOF that it's not about your alignment in this case, it's about the fact that the universe doesn't consider this specific agent a cooperative component to your desire."


:exactly:MC, I love the way your husband put it. That's it! Sometimes the Universe has to lead us through a bad neighborhood on the way to our desire.  It knows all the shortcuts and the best routes.  Our *specific* expectations sometimes attempt to limit the Universe, and that negative emotion (feeling of rejection, or unfairness) is our guidance showing us that we are not in agreement with our own well-being! Again, I love the way your husband put it.  The Universe is assembling all the "cooperative components" right there in the vortex. So our job is to stay in there and watch things unfold. 

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 Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 04:18 am
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Jody1 wrote:  ... and that negative emotion (feeling of rejection, or unfairness) is our guidance showing us that we are not in agreement with our own well-being!
So our job is to stay in there and watch things unfold. 


Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

I just want to hang out in my Vortex and watch things unfold.

Thx, Jody, that felt good to read, and re-read, and imagine how that would feel to just relax into it and let the Universe do its thing.

::heartsJoyful Vibe

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 Posted: Thu Sep 17th, 2009 05:18 am
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Yay! Glad you liked what he said! He lit up when I told him how much his comment was appreciated on here.:kiss::beautiful:


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